Why Things Feel F*cked: Your Practical Guide to Getting Unstuck.

Why Things Feel F*cked is a deeply explorative and actionable book, coming November 2025.

Are you feeling stuck, burnt out and disconnected from the people around you? Despite achieving the things you were told would make you happy, do you feel more lost than ever?

You’re not broken. The world is. 

This isn't just another self-help book about what’s wrong. It's your practical roadmap back to feeling genuinely alive and finding real purpose beyond society's success metrics.

From stuck to self-leadership: A journey I know well

The world is incredibly complex, chaotic and fast changing, leaving us feeling stuck – like we have our foot on the accelerator and brake at the same time.

From politics to workplaces to relationship dynamics, Why Things Feel F*cked reveals how the modern world has hijacked our nervous systems for disconnection instead of the human connection we desperately crave.

Together, we’ll deep dive into cultivating self-leadership, navigating the complexities of modern life and taking serious ownership of your future to reclaim your place in a messy and complex world.

This practical guide will help you find clarity, hope and inspiration, and a renewed sense that a better life is possible, one small change at a time.

Join me on a journey from burnout to belonging

Drawing from my decade of clinical practice as an integrated psychotherapist and leadership coach – and my own transformation from stuck to free – Why Things Feel F*cked will help you cultivate a foundation of 'calm, connected and curious' inside your body. Together, we’ll explore practical tools that help you activate your own unique path towards self-leadership through three key roles:

  • The Self Explorer: Activate the practice of knowing yourself from the inside out instead of being dominated and defined by the world around you.

  • The Choice Maker: Generate the power to choose what happens next in your life, rather than the systems around us forcing or controlling your choices.

  • The Co-Creator: Cultivate collaborative power and no longer settle for a life filled with compromise and unequal or unfulfilling partnerships.

In this book, you’ll also explore:

  • The "Nervous System Map" that explains your stress and overwhelm and how to regulate it. 

  • Why your anxiety is a normal response to an abnormal world.

  • How to shift from people-pleasing and powerless relationship patterns to genuinely collaborative ones. 

  • How to build the diverse support system you actually need. 

  • How small changes make real connections, real choices and lasting change possible.

  • A framework of actionable, practical tools for lifelong learning.

Ready to get unstuck and take control of your future? 

Let’s journey together to unlock greater freedom, connection and creative choices in your life.

What makes Why Things Feel F*cked different?

This is not your average self-help book. This is a practical guide and proven action plan to living a fuller, more grounded life.

  • Discover why you’re not broken – the world is (even if you’re a successful professional). Ever felt like you “have it all” but something’s missing? Together, we'll unearth the reality of the human experience and start to transform it, one choice at a time.

  • Neuroscience made accessible Dive into my "Nervous System Map" to understand why we feel stuck and how to regulate ourselves.

  • An actionable three-role framework for self-leadership Explore my structured pathway from disconnection to shared power, authentic living and fulfilling relationships.

  • Free yourself through the science of human connection. Learn from authentic client and author experiences, and practical toolkits from my thriving psychotherapy practice.

  • 200+ pages of practical tools, exercises and real stories. Go from feeling lost to getting your power back with a clear framework to shift your mindset and how you live your life.

A note from Andrew

The first 20 years of my life harmed me greatly. The last 20 years have healed me. I've written this book because I believe your healing is possible too, and I want to share what I've learned along the way. 

Much of the content and some of the client stories in this book draws from my decade of private practice as an Integrated Psychotherapist and Leadership Coach in Gadigal, Sydney, Australia. These are, in essence, all of our stories. We all struggle, and we all heal, often in the safe presence of another human being.

Why Things Feel F*cked is more than just a self-help book about mental health; it’s a practical guide and action plan. My hope is that you'll discover fractals of our shared human experience throughout this book as you, too, ignite your path to self-leadership and true belonging.

Go gently, human.

Andrew

Pre Order - Why Things Feel Fuck*ed

Release date: 18 November 2025.

Available in eBook and paperback formats.

FAQs about Why Things Feel F*cked

  • I wrote this book for everyone from adults facing the reality crash of “real life”, to successful professionals who feel stuck, despite achieving traditional markers of success.

    Maybe you feel you’ve done all the right things, and should be happy, contented and fulfilled, but something’s missing. Maybe you’re feeling disillusioned in the world and have a hunch life isn’t all it was promised to be. Maybe you feel like your ship has sailed and you’ve lost sight of your capacity to re-engineer your life. 

    If, instead of feeling content with your successes, you feel stuck in life, burnt out and disconnected from people around you – this book is for you.

  • This isn't about positive thinking or quick fixes. I've created a science-backed exploration of how modern systems have literally wired our nervous systems for stress and disconnection, plus practical tools I use with my clients to help them rewire for connection and freedom.

    Why Things Feel F*cked makes neuroscience accessible, with 200+ pages of practical tools, exercises and real stories. It provides a clear framework to shift your mindset and how you live your life. And it is a book to revisit for lifelong learning and practice, whenever you feel the call.

  • Absolutely. I've included practical exercises, self-assessments and step-by-step frameworks you can use independently. However, some readers may benefit from professional support as they work through deeper patterns. We are all lifelong works in progress (myself included) and this book is not intended as a replacement for therapy or a quick-fix solution.

  • Life's journey often includes moments of profound challenge. It's important to remember that you don't have to navigate these times alone. Reaching out for support is a sign of strength and a vital step in our collective path towards well-being. If you find yourself needing help, please connect with one of these services.

    Call 000 – If you are in an emergency

    Lifeline – Urgent Crisis Support: 13 11 14 www.lifeline.org.au

    Sane Australia – Connection to Support Services: 1800 187 263 www.sane.org

    Blue Knot Foundation – Telephone Counselling Complex Trauma and connection to support services: 1300657380 www.blueknot.org.au

    13 Yarn - Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Help Line: 13 92 76 www.13yarn.org.au

    Qlife - LGBTIAQ+ Support Services: 1800 184 527 www.qlife.org.au